How to forgive yourself
How to forgive yourself Forgiveness, of others and the self, has always been a challenge. Forgiveness can take years and in some cases, an entire lifetime before it is actualized. Often, however, human beings have an easier time forgiving others and the hardest time forgiving themselves. Lack of forgiveness, especially of the self, can breed feelings of resentments, anger, stress, and even cause physical problems to arise.
Self-forgiveness is not easy but when it is realized, it gives individuals the power to move on from the past and into the present, therefore giving the individual more control over their lives. Everybody makes mistakes and learning how to move on from these errors is essential not only for your mental health but your wellbeing as well.
Take it one day at a time
Forgiveness is not a one-time thing that you attempt and move on. Typically, it takes weeks, months and in some cases, years before we can fully forgive ourselves and move on. As such, if you are having difficulties with self-forgiveness, recognize that you are not alone.
Reconditioning your thoughts in order to be able to adopt new beliefs may be easier said than done. However, every single thing that you do towards forgiving yourself allows you to step away from any shame that you may have been internalizing so that you can find your true purpose in life.
Admit when you mess up and forgive
We all make mistakes and part of forgiving yourself is to admit when you have messed up. Though you may struggle with admitting your faults, denying it is much worse; and this is typically how you land yourself into even more trouble.
A lot of times, human beings use denial as a defense mechanism or as a way to avert feelings of shame and guilt. And while you may feel more comfortable denying your faults, ignoring your problems does not automatically make them disappear. At some point, you will have to take responsibility for your actions so that you can start evolving into a better person.
Learn how to apologize
When you hurt others around you, the only way to correct the situation is to step up, admit culpability and apologize. Offering a heartfelt and sincere apology to those you have hurt will allow you to forgive yourself so that you can, in turn, begin to make amends in your own life. Even when your apology is not accepted, it is critical to remember that your mistakes do not define you.
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